Thursday, April 17, 2008

For Women Only

I just finished reading the book, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. Let me tell you, out of all the books I've read in my life (the Bible, excluded) this one has given me the best direction, the most practical hands-on application, and the biggest jolt of reality ever.
I adore my husband with everything that is ME. We are polar opposites in some areas of our life, and in others we are so alike that it becomes quite a struggle. For instance we are both hard-headed mules (I think I said that once before!) and we're both quite competetive. We enjoy similar things, but there are other things we don't just "get" about each other. And that's ok. I like that - it means there are things to look forward to in the future.
This book was filled with the results of Shaunti's research by surveying LOTS of men (now wouldn't that be a cool job?) in all walks of life. Most amazing to me was how no matter what kind of life these men led, they all shared similar answers to how they want to be treated, loved, respected and admired and they mostly had similar feelings ABOUT the women in their lives. These are things that men wish women knew. Now, I feel like I know a little secret, but just for you I want to share it.
If you have any doubts about how your husband feels about you. GO BUY THIS BOOK.
If you always find yourself wondering why he does things the way he does. BUY THE BOOK!
If you really desire to see your marriage grow and become healthier. GET THE BOOK
But most of all if you want some real answers to loving your man the way he wants to be loved, you really would benefit from reading For Women Only.
It is by no means a "get fixed quick" scheme (yes, I just made that up), or a dose of polite words on how to submit to your master, it's down to earth, practical and it feels like having a really frank talk with your best friend who knows better than you and has the evidence to back it up.
One word of caution: You need to be ready for this book. You will not enjoy it or learn anything from it if you're having a meltdown or you're trodding the dangerous land of PMS.


Farm Chick said...

I have a similar book, put out by Bob Barnes (Emilie Barnes hubby) that is pretty good too.

When I am not PMS'n I will have to check this out. :)

farm suite said...

This is my lucky day. You posted something for me to read AND it'll help me understand my husband! Thanks... your blog is a blessing.

Toni said...

Another really good book is The Five Love Languages. Hubby and I are reading together and discussing. We are learning a lot about each other and about ourselves.

Chickie Mamma said...

Excellent suggestion! I read some of that stuff a LONG time ago, and I'm headed in to "The Five Love Languages of Children" this week. I'll have to report back on it!